Go to the Root Through “Why?”
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If you landed here directly, please start at the beginning.
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At the beginning of this letter, I told you that what you were made for is not a theory or a philosophical daydream. It is a fact.
And how can I be so sure? Because no matter which event, decision, or moment of your life you choose as reference — whether monumental or trivial — every path leads back to the same root, the same master line of code: How you feel → toward how you would like to feel. Every choice, every impulse, every hesitation, every action. All of it.
You can think about the greatest decision of your life or the most insignificant. I’ll give you a few examples, and then you’ll test it yourself.
Let’s start with one of the biggest decisions you’ve ever made. Hold it in your mind for a moment. Now perform a reverse engineering of the decision through ‘why.’ Ask yourself: “Why did I make this decision?”
Maybe your very first answer is simply this: “I felt it was the right thing to do at the time.”
Or maybe you think there was another reason — perhaps you made that decision because it seemed like the only acceptable option.
So let me illustrate this with a clearer example.
Imagine a young man who decides to leave his parents’ home.
He found a job and is moving into a cramped little apartment with none of the comfort or conveniences his parents’ house provided.
And yet he goes — willingly, even eagerly. Now imagine you’re his friend, and you ask him:
“Why?”
He answers: “I’m at the age where I should move out. It’s the right thing to do.”
So you continue: “Why is it the right thing?”
He replies: “Because it’s how we build our own lives, our own things. That’s important if you want to be successful.”
You don’t stop there: “Why is being successful important?”
He sighs and says: “Because society works that way. If you’re successful, you have a better life—better opportunities, more money, less struggle.”
You press one more layer deeper: “Why do you want a better life?”
And then he finally reveals the truth hidden beneath every step: “Because I want to feel good, safe, fulfilled… isn’t that what everyone wants?”
And there it is.
The root.
The master code.
Clear as daylight once you’ve peeled away the layers: How he feels → toward how he would like to feel.
Every “why?” inevitably leads back to feeling. Every choice returns to the same origin. Every human, across time and culture, is pulled by the same internal gravity. And soon, you’ll test this on your own life.
Think about what you’re wearing right now. Why did you choose those clothes? Because you like the colors?
Because everything else is in the laundry? If you had infinite options, what would determine your choice? The weather? The occasion?
Imagine you’re going to a wedding and you have two outfits identical in style, but in different colors — one black, one blue. Which one would you pick? And why?
Follow the full chain of the reverse engineering of the decision through ‘why’ and you will always land at the same root.
A Constant Reminder and a Note on Responsibility.
Feeling is not a choice. Action is. Between feeling and acting, there is a space — and in that space lives responsibility.
Nothing in this text invites impulsive action. Every action assumes care — for yourself, for others, and for the world we all inhabit.
Why do you do things that make you feel bad?
Because the internal battle is always between competing feelings.
It’s never between “logic and emotion,” as people like to claim. It is always feeling vs. feeling, and the strongest feeling wins.
Now let’s look at situations that show why things are not as simple as they appear.
Imagine you’re unhappy with your physical shape — both aesthetically and in terms of health. You know you’re sedentary, so you decide: “I’ll exercise every day at 3 p.m.”
But when the time comes, day after day, you quit at the last minute. Why?
Because laziness “speaks louder.” Because staying comfortable in what you’re already doing feels easier. Because the path of least resistance is real for everyone. That is the master code in action: You’re feeling fine in the moment and you want to keep feeling fine without interruption. But then you get home, catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror before stepping into the shower, and the dissatisfaction hits you hard. You feel the weight of your own concern. And suddenly… you feel bad.
Not everything that feels good is good for you.
This is the foundation of every addiction.
Whether it’s an externally driven addiction — cigarettes, alcohol, food, drugs — or a behavioral addiction — gaming, work, social media, sex, pornography — they all share one core truth: You feel pleasure in something that you know harms you,
and that ultimately makes you feel worse in the end.
That’s why so many successful people, teachers, and authors preach discipline and consistency. According to them, if you commit to a sequence of small, often uncomfortable actions in service of a greater goal, success becomes inevitable — and with success comes the feeling of accomplishment.
But the majority fall to the small, easy pleasures (like laziness), and end up drowning in the familiar feeling of repeated failure.
And now, I want you to understand why it truly matters to know that you were made to feel. But first, a brief conversation about the purpose of life. Shall we?
